Can a man (and I really mean male here generally) behave one way when you’re interracting with him person-to-person yet be a bully, a despot on the road when behind his wheel?
I mused about this as I witness the drama unfolding in front of me.
My family and I were enjoying the ice-cream at Udders in [...]
Archive for the ‘Values’ Category
1 Oct
The 2 sides of a man behind his wheel and outside of his car
11 Jun
受宠若惊
工作非常时期也正是分辨出我周围为我好的真正朋友, 或所谓的fair-weather friends.
结果令我大跌眼镜, 让我受宠若惊! 原来在我这个独行侠的旁边, 有这么多关心我, 鼓励我的人! 这包括我的直接上司, 通常只是擦肩而过的同事, 还有一位(也只有那么一位) 我从前鼓励过的朋友兼同事.
我感动, 但是更重要的是它刺激我反省- 我太self-centred了, 如果是另一位同事经历我所经历的事物, 我会同样的给以支持吗?
我需要努力, 更努力的关怀我身边的人, 学习认识其他人的需要, 然后积极帮助他们.
对我来说, 这是非常困难的事…
11 Jun
Interesting article on the early years of marriage
Newlywed Ambush: http://www.christianitytoday.com/mp/1999/spring/9m1018.html
8 Jun
纳闷
最近在工作上被人家整, 又按捺不住情绪对人家吼叫,现在有一点战战兢兢, 不知自己的饭碗是否会被影响?
从前我觉得只要理直,就能气壮, 可以毫无保留的去做该做的东西.但是时间一久, 思绪也好象被模糊了, 对与错在也不这么清晰. 是我傻了吗? 还是变成智者? 我自己都模糊了.
我需要从前清晰的脑袋, 以便得到平静. 也许以下是我的解脱:
“一 个 人 不 能 事 奉 两 个 主 ； 不 是 恶 这 个 ， 爱 那 个 ， 就 是 重 这 个 ， 轻 那 个 。 你 们 不 能 又 事 奉 神 ， 又 事 奉 玛 门 [...]
21 May
Commitment = Always forgiving…
While having dinner on the day of his proposal…
HTB: Uncle, I had asked your daughter for her hand in marriage today
Dad (to HTB): What is her answer? (Pa, I’m just sitting there opposite you and beside him leh :p )
HTB: She agreed.
(Time filling conversation until dinner is over, soon after which I had made [...]
23 Apr
Slowly losing my humanity… becoming a beast?
Watched Les Miserables’ on video over the weekend and I was particularly stricken by the inference of how Jean Valjean had slowly lost his humanity when doing 19 years of hard labour. When sentenced to hard labour by court, he was simply a hungry peasant who was separated from hunger by a pane of glass [...]
20 Mar
In a relationship?
As I wrote my last post, I stopped short in the middle of the sentence “…. before my SO and I were in a relationship.”
Why does “in a relationship” narrowly define only that of 2 people dating/are in a courtship together?
Doesn’t that imply that friendship, kinship and familial ties are not relationships?
This is a symptom of our increasingly compartmentalised lives [...]
9 Mar
Simplicity and Goodness
I was away in Ho Chi Minh during this weekend. The trip was good but I can”t help but feel depressed.
Although they’re not really law-abiding, violating traffic lights and travelling in which ever lane is most convenient for them, their traffic system works (only for them) because of their innate goodness and their simple hearts. This [...]
30 Jan
Love vs Unselfishness
Excerpted from “The Screwtape Letters”. This fiction documents the letters by a senior demon to a junior demon on how to tempt people into evil. It changed my perspective of love and goodness.
My dear Wormwood,
The grand problem is that of ‘Unselfishness’. Note once again our admirable work in substituting the negative unselfishness for the Enemy’s positive [...]
6 Jan
Knowing and Doing
*Religious references. Do not read if uncomfortable
Just a while ago, via MSN:
S.O: Hi dear, I think I shd arrive at 7pm
Me: Thanks for letting me know in advanced
S.O: Logging off now, see you soon
Me: Bye
This consistent change, of planning and communicating his plans to me, from his earlier carefree “just pop by if I happen [...]
