How we had gotten together

I was aware of his interest in me from the start, but I was wary of getting too close to him – partly because I distrust men who came from the salsa scene, partly because I was convinced at that point in time that I was called to singleness, experiencing and being in completeness in Jesus Christ.

Except for dancing with him, I initially had no interest in getting to know him better.  If not for my being blinded by my spiritual snobbishness, I thought that it had fallen on me to facilitate him to come to know spiritual “truth” – which is really my version, my perception of that objective standard of truth anyway.  And so came numerous discussions of “Who is Jesus?”, “What is His work during His human ministry on earth 2000 years ago?”, “What is His  work now in our lives?”, “What does it mean to have faith in Him?”  Foolish are my ways isn’t it?  Yet Jesus uses even this foolishness to bring us to know Him more.

At that point in time, although I am so much more articulate than he is which showed in me winning all the verbal arguments *hehe*, it was his example, his gentleness, his patience, his authenticity and refusal to accept people’s judgement of his personal worth and value that got my attention.

Things came to a head on my birthday when he showed his devotion to me by taking a whole day leave to accompany me in school.  I felt really bad as I was facilitating that day and so can only spend snatches of time with him.  So I asked him if he’s free for a drink after my family dinner.  He said he was.

At “Oosh” on Dempsey Road, with nice, peaceful ambience, I asked him quietly the reason for his attraction towards me.  I was pleasantly surprised by the poetry which sprang from his usually literal tongue:

“Knowing you gradually is like opening a treasure bag.  Every time I know a little more about you, everytime I put my hand into the treasure bag, I will find something precious, something to be treasured.  One day it can be emeralds, another diamonds and sometimes it can be sapphire.  Every bit is fascinating, everything beautiful.”

He had also indicated that the day that I allow him to hold my hands, would be the day that I indicate my acceptance of us as one couple.

A month later, my hand was held by him.